Why do you want to help others?
A lot of people have asked me why I put so much effort into helping other people. That question is simple. Because I’m worth it.
Then they stare at me weirdly, and ask… Don’t you mean they are worth it? That answer too is yes. However, the real reason that I try to help in any way that I can is because I know that you can’t out-give in this life.
Now, I’m not telling you to give away all your worldly belongings. I’m not saying that at all! What I am saying is what I try to give away is the most valuable thing in this world. It is also totally free. You guessed it! LOVE. For many years, I lived my life hating the person that I saw in the mirror. I so badly wanted to experience love, acceptance, patience, and compassion, however those types of luxuries were for “other people”, because I always felt like I wasn’t worthy or deserving of love.
It wasn’t until I was in my 30’s that I started to realize love really isn’t a feeling at all. Love is a decision. When I wake up in the morning the first thing my brain wants to focus on is all the bad things that could go wrong today. That was how I was programmed mentally growing up. If this has a way of going bad, I’m going to experience it, and it will most definitely be my fault. I took ownership of this as if it were my goal to fail. This mindset cost me countless relationships by one of 2 ways. I cared too much about someone, so I would push them away because I was afraid I would hurt them. The other way would be to completely smother someone, because I was certain that they were too good for me and I didn’t want the rest of the world to see how wonderful they were, and they would certainly leave me!
It wasn’t until I started separating my feelings from reality, that I could start to see things more clearly. I wake up in the morning and tell myself what my day is going to be like. I speak it into existence. Which requires action (work). My life isn’t one that can run on autopilot. When I attempt this, I always default back to living a depressed “half-life”.
I decide when I wake up in the morning that I’m going to make it a great day. My plan is always to help as many people as I can. That is where my joy comes from. Real joy. The kind that makes you feel lighter, stand taller, and speak louder than I would if I just allowed life to happen. I take ownership of it. I make it become who I am.
We live in a world where people feel as if they don’t even exist. As if the world wouldn’t even notice if they were gone. I was one of those people through a large portion of my own life. There are millions of people doing this every single day for their entire lives. Not only do they do it, but they teach their children to do the same. It causes what my Dad would have called a generational curse. Accepting where I’m at because it’s all I’ve ever known.
There is so much more to this gift that we call life! Sharing your love for others doesn’t mean you have to give them money, call them all the time, or becoming romantically involved. To me, love means being the best version of myself that I can be and shining my light as bright as I possibly can, to help guide others to a happier place. A brighter place!
There is plenty of darkness in this world, and it can be found everywhere. I want to challenge you today. Start waking up in the morning and deciding to love yourself. Recognize the light that you can offer this world and share it! Share it like it’s a job. I promise you, it will be the most rewarding job you never applied for!